Thus far & much further

It is not often these days that a college romance fructifies into wedlock. Corporate Citizen unlocks the story of love that has culminated into marriage, for we believe in the stability of a relationship and family unit. We bring to you real-life romances that got sealed in marriage

Married for six years after dating for almost a decade, Ishan and Purnima Kajaria’s story has traversed varied ground in terms of both milestones and distance. Natives of Varanasi, they pursued their MBA at good old BIMM before finally moving to Mumbai. While he’s country head sales for the fintech startup, ePaylater, she’s senior manager, priority segment with Kotak Mahindra. Life is both challenging and rewarding

He is honest, simple and straightforward. Despite the temperamental differences, I am basically like that as well. So we grew closer

- Purnima

Schoolmates who became college sweethearts and finally, husband and wife.

If ever the journey of a thousand miles and countless memories were to be summed up in a line, the aforementioned would perhaps be an apt description.

Even as Ishan and Purnima Kajaria manage the rough and tumble of life in a megapolis, while keeping intact the value system of their beloved home city, what sustains them throughout is a deep-seated friendship. “We are buddies, first and foremost,” says Purnima. “Everything else comes after that.” Possibly the best thing to happen to a marriage.

Festive moments and finery: Ishan and Purnima
believe marriage is about living each moment to the full

Back to the beginning

This love story has been scripted bit by bit. The first segment at Varanasi’s St. Joseph’s school, followed by the imposing campus of the BHU (Benaras Hindu University), further cemented at BIIB, Pune-finally culminating in marriage. “While we knew each other in school, it wasn’t until the final year of our graduation at BHU when we realised that perhaps there was more to our equation than just friendship. Perhaps we could partner with each other in life too. A common friend made us both realise that we meant far more to each other than we understood, and it would, therefore, be a good idea to enter into a steady relationship,” shares Ishan.

It made sense to apply to the same college for their post-graduation. Luckily, both were accepted at BIMM for the batch of 2006-08 to pursue their MBA in marketing and international business. It was here that the fledgeling romance acquired maturity and direction. “Honestly, it was the first time we were living away from home. The cultural shock after coming to a big city like Pune was quite a bit-as were the demands of the BIMM curriculum. Not only did we grow into adulthood but we also understood the responsibilities of a relationship. We began to rely on each other,” reminisces Purnima.

The appreciation was mutual. “He is honest, simple and straightforward. Despite the temperamental differences, I am basically like that as well. So we grew closer,” she says.

Both were placed on campus with Deutsche Bank, and Vodafone respectively.

Soon, it was time to talk about marriage. “Truth be told, our parents weren’t thrilled to know about us, because of our cultural differences. They were wondering how we would adjust. She is a Rajput, while I am Marwari. But we were both committed to each other and adamant about convincing our parents,” says Ishan.

Gradually both families came around and gave the young couple their blessing.

We are both egoistic and fights happen. But over time, we have learnt to talk things out, be more patient and apologise when required. The bottom line is to prevent matters from escalating further

- Ishan

THE MANTRAS OF MARRIAGE

• Space
• Trust
• Honesty
• Sharing responsibility
• Supporting each other through thick and thin

The building blocks of a marriage

Post the nuptials, they have been based in Mumbai, travelling long distances and putting in hours around the clock. “As a married couple, we have always lived in a nuclear setup, and it has taught us a lot. Self-reliance is key to survival, as is financial management. Controlling expenses, as well as managing time, are essential. We are each other’s strongest support system, taking care of each other through illnesses and rough patches as well,” says Ishan.

At the same time, paradoxically, relying on each other taught both of them the value of giving each other due space. “It takes time and maturity for that understanding to materialise,” he smiles. “Marriage is an entirely different ball-game from the courtship days, no matter how long and intense”, adds Ishan.

Not easy, but rewarding. Mumbai gives the duo ample opportunity for personal and professional growth, while both are particular about visiting their families in Varanasi every few months. “These days our relatives visit us more often so the balance is maintained. Family is important to both of us and we make due effort to connect with our loved ones,” says Ishan

Quality time consists of movies, hanging out with friends and restaurant dinners. As far as Purnima is concerned, she’s a music aficionado, who is learning Hindustani classical music on the side. “I love to sing. It is my passion,” she expresses. In this, she is fully supported by Ishan, who she credits with backing her up on every front. “Be it my career or passion, he is very positive and encouraging of all that I do,” she says. “As a result, I am hopeful about completing my training soon.”

Six years into wedlock, both agree on the fundamentals of a relationship: Space, trust, respect, responsibility and understanding. Domestic chores are duly shared to keep the household running seamlessly.

Conflict management is easier as they understand each other better. “We are both egoistic and fights happen. But over time, we have learnt to talk things out, be more patient and apologise when required. The bottom line is to prevent matters from escalating further,” says Ishan.

Bringing up (future) babies

So yes, they have had ‘The Talk.’

“I think the timing is right to finally start a family,” says Purnima. “I may have to take a sabbatical when the baby comes, but that’s fine with me. There are several options for young mothers nowadays when it comes to managing work and baby. Besides, each stage of life comes with its own share of responsibilities. I am certain that come what may, Ishan and I will manage it together,” she rounds off.